I am taking a liberal guess, but I can confidently say that nearly all women have a pair of shoes that they endure with pain and will not throw out.
I went to the streets to test my theory. These are their stories.
Jess from Belgrave
“I have sitting shoes, I can’t walk anywhere without holding on to my partner’s hand. He props me up until I find a seat, then I can sit down, looking pretty.”
Other women call their un-walkable footware, their dinner shoes
Jan from Burwood
Jan has 50 pairs of shoes and 12 Boots, which she rotates.
I asked her if she wore uncomfortable shoes.
“Absolutely that’s why I have sore feet. I just grin and bear it, anything for the look. I want to be tall and slim with long legs and when I get home I whinge”
Lizzi Ablmett from St Kilda
“I have 8 or 9 shoes that all hurt and I squeeze my feet into them, every night. I come home with blisters and bunyips. I do it because they look great. Even if they’re the wrong size I don’t care. The problem is my feet, not the shoes.”
Simone from Burwood
Sales Manager and Clothes Stylist
Simone has 41 pairs of shoes.
“I rotate my shoes, if I don’t wear them, I give them away. Since having a baby I no longer wear painful shoes, I need to run around and be able to pick up Alice.”
Bernie from Hallam
Sales Manager and Fashion Coordinator
Bernie leaves shoes at work that she changes periodically, during the day, to regulate the pain.
“I’ll wear painful shoes if they go with the outfit”
Sonia from Watirna
Sonia has knee issues and is forced to wear sensible shoes however she holds onto her ‘unwearables’.
“I look too gorgeous in them, to throw them out.”
Sophie from Elwood
“I am drawn to the statement and collect them like feet ornaments, yet I wear the comfy one’s everyday. My collection waits for me.
Gemma from Mont Albert
“ I was a ballet dancer for 18years, I’ve put my feet through so much pain, I can handle any shoe now.”
Dorota from Mt Waverley
“I have an obsession, all of my friends come to borrow my shoes. People tell me I’m crazy. My uncle, who is a builder made me shelves, for half of my wall, for all my shoes.
Tell me about your favourite.
“ I bought a pair in Poland. If I wear them out at night, I can’t walk the next day.”
Vinita from St Kilda
“I can’t wear heels or my foot will twist, I can’t balance but I always want them”
Do you buy them?
“Yes, a lot, I’ve got 13 pairs, but I only wear two.”
What does you partner say about your shoes?
“When I go shopping, my husband will say. ‘Why do you want them, you wont wear them? He thinks I’m just collecting the things”.
Kshipra from Hoppers Crossing
“I have really high heeled white shoes with pretty straps and I just wore them once. I didn’t take public transport, I got my husband to drive me to the door of the restaurant. When we wanted to walk around the city, I changed into other footwear.”
And do you still have them?
“Yes, its been three years since I bought them but I wont throw them out. I always dust them and put them back, I hope to wear them some day. The hope is there.”
What does your partner say about your shoes?
“ He says, why don’t you give off the ones you don’t’ wear, then buy the new ones? I say, no I’ll wear them some day.”
“At Crown, after the party, I walked out and see these women, the first thing they do is take off their shoes. And there was one girl, no matter what, she did not want to remove her heals. She was holding to her friend, because she couldn’t stand on her own, yet she refused to remove her shoes.
We were watching her from behind and we really thought she would fall.
Based on these stories, I conclude that Cinderella didn’t loose her shoe, she was kicking them off at the end of the Ball.
“We arrived in Africa and were instantly overwhelmed by the kindness and friendliness of the local people.”
Melbourne student nurse Laura Garnock stepped up, to be part of a team of 19, to visit and assist a hospital in Kampala, Uganda . The first pilot team for ACU, included students of nursing, midwifery and public health.It was a cultural and medical challenge that reinforced her desire to join ‘Doctors without Borders’ sometime in her career.
“We didn’t have too much information about the exchange experience before applying, other than we would be working at Mulago hospital and volunteering in various other community programs over the two weeks. That was enough for me; my attention was caught at ‘Uganda’”. Garnock
Midwifery and Nursing Lecturer’s, Annette Garvey and Jean Mukasa, enabled the trip after years of relentless organising, planning, risk assessment and convincing.
“We all had the common underlying motivation for applying for the Uganda trip. We wanted to help people and work out if we could actually cope with what we saw, continue to do it afterwards and to make a difference. I think most of us could confidently say that, we achieved all three things.” Garnock
The nurses were split up and rotated between medical emergency, surgical emergency and trauma.
“It was when I was on the surgical rotation that I saw a leg amputated. I have never felt so out of my depth in my life, there are many things that I saw in Mulago hospital that I will carry with me forever.
I learnt the power of support, giving a patient or their family member a hug.. The non-verbal communication that we take for granted in Australia, when talking to each other, meant the world to our patients.” Garnock
The student nurses were faced to overwhelming conditions of overcrowding and limited medical options.
“Out of 191 countries in the world, Uganda’s healthcare is rated 186th. 48% of the population in Uganda is under the age of 15. ..On an average day, there is one nurse to 45 patients on the ward, that was how understaffed but incredibly busy this hospital was.
The conditions and illnesses that we saw are generally uncommon in Australia, so it was difficult at first to know where to start, in terms of nursing care. Cardiac shock due to dehydration, Malaria, AIDS (related conditions), TB, Hepatitis B and C were common medical conditions. The trauma centre (casualty) had a wide range of patients from victims of assault and violence, to those needing resuscitation.
..A blood pressure machine was non-existent in some of the wards and those that did have one, had to share it between all 45 patients. Doctors had stethoscopes, but it was a rarity to come across other valuable equipment such as a pulse oximeter or a thermometer. Luckily some of the girls on our trip had the foresight to bring a manual BP machine.” Garnock
Part of the trip was to take part in Community active groups aimed at empowering local residents with simple but powerful options.
We did some outreach work on our days off in the local ‘slums’. We worked with Yimba Uganda, a organisation that is a Ugandan NGO devoted to empowering, training and providing new opportunities to Ugandan’s in order to promote sustainability & independence. L.G
THE GOAT PROGRAM
This program has enabled domestic farming that has led to home ownership for some families.
“A local family is given (loaned) a goat and told to look after it for a while, breed the goat and take responsibility for it’s welfare. At the end of a few months or a year , the family can make a profit from all their efforts” Garnock
THE WOMENS SANITATION PROGRAM
This program offered girls the convenience of menstrual solutions to enable them to fully participate in activities without physical restrictions. Previously, females had to abandon school and work due to ‘this time of the month’.Western options were not feasible due to the problem of waste.
“Anne-Marie, an ACU graduate, designed and made reusable sanitary products for the local Ugandan girls. The local girls were using pages from textbooks, leaves and foam from their mattresses for protection” Garnock
TEXTILES TRAINING PROGRAM
Boys and Girls were trained in sewing to enable them access to clothing and a means of income.
“…to tailor their own clothes and learn more skills in the hope that they can build their own future.”
The students have been active in Local Fund Raisers since their return.For Laura it was a heart warming journey that made her aware of the contrasting medical conditions.
“I think the overwhelming point that I took home from the trip was that people in Australia have no idea how good their healthcare is. We couldn’t even give our patients water to drink.” Garnock
Flag photo by L Garnock of Mulago nurses.
Young Australian men joined forces and fought for Peace at a time when evil deeds were tools of power. War Stories surface from the battles and are told by the tired ones that survived. Both World Wars brought many refugees who fled Europe to build a life for future generations in Australia.
Rosa was born in Poland, she was 13 years of age when World War 2, broke out on September 1939. Her young life would be thrown into a horror that she would have to endure. What is most remarkable about Rosa’s account of what happened to her and her family was her unrelenting bravery.
Her father had a shop that sold leather goods such as purses, shoes and bags; it was a successful business that provided a comfortable life for Rosa and her family. The war encroached upon them bit by bit, schools were closed and then the shops were off limits to them because they were Jewish. They had to leave their home, possessions and business and move into a ghetto.
Rosa’s 17-year-old sister decided to go to Russia where she could continue her studies in design, or find work. Many Jewish people thought they would be safer in Russia. Meanwhile Rosa’s remaining family that included an older brother and a baby were resettled on a cold and raining day. In the morning was a ‘Selection’.
“We were lucky as we were all selected to go on one side, I don’t know which one was the good one, right or left? But we were allowed to go home. That day I lost my grandparents, aunties and uncles.” Rosa explains.
Many of Rosa’s extended family were sent to the death camps in the town of Auschwitz, they were ignorant of their fate and thought that the re-location was into the township. Life was very dangerous. A near by Synagogue was burnt with men within it and Rosa remembered the dreadful smell.
Her older brother was sent to a work camp. One day he came home with a self- inflicted wound, a friend at the camp had advised him to cut himself so that he could get some leave. It worked but overnight the wound got infected. It was curfew but the mother risked going out and pleaded with a German soldier to send for a doctor. His life was saved as the doctor came and gave him the medication he needed to recover.
Food was scarce and Rosa stood in bread lines from 5am in the morning, but it made no difference as she was denied her share, due to her ethnic background. Her father resorted to the Black Market. Most things were available on the Black Market so her father decided to sell his leather goods on it, to generate an income.
A Jewish man in their neighbourhood was collaborating with the Germans and he found out about the side business. Every Thursday Germans would search Rosa’s home and even though they could not find any evidence they arrested her father. Rosa’s mother paid a ransom to the traitor every week to free her husband and keep him out of jail.
The family were sent orders that Rosa was to go to a work camp even though she was very young and weak. Originally, they hid her at an Aunties’ house but she was discovered and reissued orders. Despite her family’s protests, Rosa decided to go so as to protect them from repercussions. Her father thought that if she were wounded, as her brother had been, she would be able to stay with them. He was wrong. He burnt his daughters arm with acid and that action diverted her from being sent to the work farm but put her in line for Auschwitz
The ‘traitor’ that had been collecting money from Rosa’s family saw that she was on the list to the death camp. He decided to help her due to the payments he had received.
“He could say who was going to live and who was going to die”. Rosa explains.
“Your too young to die” The Traitor told her.
She was saved from the death camp and ended up at a work camp where she was told that she would be making parts for bicycles. She was then told to give up all of her meagre possessions such as watches, photos and jewellery. As her greatest possession were two photographs (that she still has) she hid them behind a brick in the wall. They no longer called her by name but rather by a number, which she resented.
When she was working at the factory she went into a back office looking for an officer. She went into the vacated room and read the German signage on the wall and realised that they weren’t making bicycles. They were making bombs.
“’My God! What are you doing Rosa? Helping to kill your family, your friends? ”
No! I wont do it. Rosa explained her thoughts.
When she was discovered in the forbidden office, she pretended that she couldn’t read German. Secretly she asked God to forgive her lie. When she was returned to the factory she informed her friend of her discovery.
“I’m going to sabotage the bombs” young Rosa declared
“ I made them not to measurement, I made them bigger, they were good for nothing. My boss, he noticed and asked me to concentrate more, he was German so I couldn’t tell him. I broke the needles, I made them bigger and everyday he said, what you are doing is wrong. One day more men came and stood behind my back and watched me working. I break more needles; I make them bigger. They told me to stand up and sent me to a German woman, she was not very nice and she told me that I was to go to Auschwitz.” Rosa recalled.
That was three months before the war had ended. Everyday Rosa reported to her and everyday she was told that she would go the following day. They couldn’t send her because the Liberation had begun; it was 1945. Suddenly there was no work for the girls and the factory seized operations. Men with guns surrounded the camp and called for the girls to come out but they were too frightened to do so. They yelled out to them that they were free but Rosa and her friends didn’t believe them until from a window, she saw her cousin in the crowd.
“Its not a joke anymore, we are free’ Rosa declared to the girls.
“We laughed, we cried, we kissed. The first thing I did was go a get the pictures,” Rosa explained.
Rosa came to Australia in 1960 with her husband and two children. They settled and made a new home. She is happy here and thinks that it is a beautiful country.
“ I have seven great grandsons. Hitler didn’t survive long enough to kill me too.” Rosa states.
Her final message to the next generation is that ‘we are all the same’ and not to discriminate!’
* Rosa spoke at the Jewish Holocaust Museum, Elsternwick
(Rosa’s older brother and sister survived but her parents and baby sister did not).